Being so accommodating
I usually get caught up in my own stuff and react and stress and fight.But once the dust has settled, I ask myself, does it really matter?
Unfortunately, when I am confronted with a situation that requires a solution, I get trapped by that old demon of being right and being heard.
Let’s say that your colleague is trying to outdo you to get a promotion and they are spreading rumours about you. It is not helpful to be cruel, demeaning, rude, bitchy, bossy, bullying, spiteful, hurtful, horrible, selfish, and vengeful.
I don’t have the answer, but following Buddha’s advice, I would keep my mouth shut and not say a word and let the scenario play itself out.
Any conflict consists of at least 2 parties after all. A few years back, I had a friendship which started to deteriorate and I really tried to accommodate her. I know enough about the psyche to know that to be truthful is very difficult, especially with yourself; unconscious complexes driving us to believe in a certain point of view often obscure any attempt at realising the “truth”.
But, It really isn’t that easy to turn the other cheek. But eventually it was so untenable that when I finally did end the relationship, my feelings were so hurt that it took me months to get over it. If it is truthful and helpful, wait for the right time. (being wise has been a lifelong goal for me :-)) These wise words have a goal and that is to be truthful and helpful at all times towards others. And then there is the problem of reaching deep down inside and finding the root of your anger or dissatisfaction.